I Googled this phrase…I thought it was feint of heart, but turns out it is faint of heart. At any rate…..
Warning: If you aren’t used to doctors poking around in your orifices or are in the least bit squeamish about these things, then skip this post. This one is written most specifically for my MS brethren who have suffered the indignities of medical procedures and have given up all hope of retaining any sense of modesty since we started having our brains x-rayed. If the idea of having an airport security body scan bothers you, move along.
Incontinence. How embarrassing can it get? People telling jokes about Depends that we only give a curt smile to and then move on (I actually know a funny one, but maybe another time). It is high on the list of MS symptoms and almost everyone I’ve ever met with MS shares this inconvenience with me. (If you’re daring enough to be reading this after my warning, I have news. Chances are running pretty high that even you will be personally interested in this topic someday).
I’ve been seeing my urologist, Dr. David G., for about 8 years. He’s a handsome blade, very suave (I’ve never been able to figure out how you can combine suave and urology, but he has), and cutting edge in his affiliation with USC. Over the years we tried Detrol to control the urgency, which worked up to a point, but I was still wearing a pad. Then one visit after an ultrasound he pronounced that I was not voiding completely ~ oh for god’s sake, really? What does that even mean? Well in his Dr. words, my bladder was a cess pool. EWWWW!!!!! Solution! Please! Now!
Fuck. The solution? Catheterizing. When I was very first diagnosed I bought a book on MS that was written by all these very “evolved” women who called it the MonSter (oh, so clever) and I hated them and the book because they gave their condition so much power. Nevertheless, they talked about having to self catheter and I thought NO WAY that is the worst EVER! Hell will freeze before I ever do that!
Hell froze over.
I was not only peeing in my pants every 5 seconds, but it was because I was only ever “topping off”. The only solution to empty the old B was to catheter. Holy crap. I went in and had a lesson (I am not making this up ~ can you imagine that being your job?) and glumly went home with my new “gear” and cried and cried and practiced and cried.
I remember going to San Diego not long after to meet up with Lisa and her family who were down from Seattle on holiday. She, being my number one go to rock, suggested I show her how it was done. My wonderful sister sat with me in a hotel room while I demonstrated my new found skill and held me while I cried, laughed with me at the absurdity of it all, and as per usual, was a beacon of strength and inspiration to me. My sister, as they say, is the bomb.
Believe it or not, this is just the beginning of the bladder story. There are more installments of the bladder blog, but it’s getting late. Why don’t you all go have a pee and we’ll reconvene tomorrow.